Last night I had the privilege and the honor to talk about meditation/mindfulness to this amazing and beautiful group of woman. Together we went pretty deep, learned more about meditation and practiced a few breathing techniques to help us relax and heal our bodies. We meditated as a group and finished off our time together with the "chocolate" meditation! This group of brave-hearts meets monthly at night here at Mather Hospital as a support group entitled, "Live Love and Laugh Again."
As a way of opening ourselves up to each other I asked the woman to turn and ask the woman next to you this question, "why did you come here tonight" and to practice listening mindfully one full minute. We took turns. What struck me was that they all shared the exact same answer. Each woman said that they came to this meeting "because they loved each other and they needed each other."
There are so many teachings in this article on the second agreement taken from don Miguel Ruiz's book, The Four Agreements - dont take anything personally. What immediately stood out for me was what don Miguel taught his son - that he is responsible to the tips of his OWN fingers - that he is NOT responsible to anyone else. To take things personally is to assume responsibility for someone else’s will.
I had to let that settle in a bit "be responsible to the tips of your own fingers...."
Can you imagine a life where we actually were able to think, believe and practice this?
To take things personally is to assume responsibility for someone else's will.... hmm...that is really "far-out!"
I can so relate to how often I believed that the actions of others reflected upon me. Especially with my family and my friends - what they said or didn't say, what they did or didn't do. My mental wheelbarrow has been filled and brimming over with shame, blame, resentment, anger and judgm...
Sending deep gratitude to Pam, Eileen and the local chapter members of the National Association of Social Workers for inviting me to teach today about meditation/mindfulness. It was both and honor and a privilege to be surrounded by this group of health care providers. These bold and devoted professionals care so much about their clients and patient's well-being that they took time out of their weekend to learn about meditation as a tool to help heal.
As my mentor and dear teacher, davidji reminded me as I prepared for this meeting, "we transform the world by transforming ourselves."
Feeling blest and basking in the ripple of our time together