Wow - day 7 of asking, how can I love myself a little bit more today? This is a total first for me - having this question as an intention for seven days is something brand new and exciting! I would like to say thank you for taking this journey with me and congratulations for completing week one! I am learning so much from you. I deeply appreciate the time you are taking to read my posts and your beautiful brave hearts sharing and helping all of us.
This topic of judging and criticizing (myself and others) has become so heightened in my awareness. It is nudging me to dig deeper into this habit that I seek to change.
It is also interesting how suddenly I am noticing as I am out and about or reading something on Facebook or listening to Podcasts or watching TV just how much criticism we level against each other!
I have learned that when we judge or criticize another person it isn't saying a thing about that pers...
I learned a very long time ago that the word "should" is one of the most damaging and violent words in our language! Every single time we use it we are in effect making ourselves "wrong", or we were "wrong", or we are going to be "wrong".
I was taught to remove the word "should" and replace it with "could."
Do I do it all the time - of course not. However, I am more aware of when I use the word "should."
What's even more interesting (and kind of funny) is how this week I noticed how many times I use it when I talk to my husband! I'm so bossy - "you should do this -or "you shouldn't do that!!" Ugh!
The word "could" gives us a choice.
And then, we're never wrong.
Think of three things that you "should" do.
Then replace "should" with "could."
Now ask, "why haven't I?"
How many "shoulds" can you drop from your list?
Remember, we are always perfect and we are doing the best we can with the understanding we have in this moment.
Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions. Many of the things we choose or have chosen to believe about ourselves have absolutely no basis in truth.
Whenever any feelings of inadequacy present themselves I remind myself that they started with me thinking negative thoughts – “stinkin thinkin”. Meditation has made me more aware that these thoughts are only words strung together. And, that these thoughts are just part of the 60 to 80 thousand other thoughts floating in my mind. They have no meaning whatsoever. I AM the one, the only one, who gives them meaning. I choose right here and right now in this precious sacred moment what kind of meaning to give them.
This is an area in my life that I continually work on and proud to say have grown exponentially in! My tools are affirmations, the pattern interrupt breath and my ritualized meditation practice.
We can use the pattern interrupt breath throughout our day to take a “time in.” We...
Affirmation: I love and accept myself exactly as I AM ~
Just for today, where will I place my attention around self love? What is my intention for self love? What one action step AM I willing to take towards my personal growth and transformation?
Yesterday having my attention on how I talk to myself helped - and i did stop and look at the note on my bathroom mirror and said the words, colleen I love and accept you exactly as you are ~ these words sort of lingered around my consciousness through out my day ~ just noticing the thoughts and noticing if any emotions would rise up.
Mirror work is a challenge for me...i tend to avoid mirrors. I'm working on it though. I AM willing to embrace this change.
For me it's important to remember that self love - or i like the words self kindness (which probably says a lot about the work i still need to do) is recognizing that it is an unfolding process that gains strength over time - with no fixed ending point. When we feel inco...
Day One - this challenge is inspired by my teacher, davidji.
For today, where will I place my attention around self love? What is my intention for self love? What one action step AM I willing to take towards my personal growth and transformation?
This week during our monthly “all teachers webinar” hosted by davidji (I am one of the advanced Masters of Wisdom Meditation Teachers certified by davidji) he challenged us to a 40 day challenge on....
Self Love - I'm in - anyone want to join me - ?
what this means is that we keep "self love" in our awareness for 40 days beginning today.
davidji suggested manicures/pedicures/massages - Personally, I need to go even deeper. i dont remember all of his suggestions however I do know he is suggesting this as a guide to our continued personal transformations.
In his latest book, Sacred Powers, he teaches that “The Power of Attention is the doorway to our ultimate transformation, without it we are sleepwalking through life. By recognizing...
Becoming familiar with Pema Chodron and her books are required in davidji’s Masters of Wisdom Teacher Training Program. Fortunately, I graduated in March of 2015. davidji suggested I start my reading with Pema from the lengthy list of books required. Resistance came up immediately during our Skype one on one personal call. I can still hear myself saying to davidji when he suggested Pema, “ummm she really doesn’t resonate with me”.
davidji: yea some find her a bit sarcastic ~ try again ~ look for her on YouTube. Maybe watching her will help.” I listen and lean in when davidji speaks directly to me.
After our call I went to my library and pulled out the first book I had read years ago and before the course. Note: - when I read if something moves me I highlight and take notes in the margins. I was astonished to find almost every page highlighted! So much for how she didn’t resonate. I guess I was just not ready for the te...
Every sensation, every emotion, is changing all of the time. Each experience, however intense, is ephemeral. All of life is transitory. ALL OF LIFE is transitory. Every single moment is transitory.
Observing the ebb and flow of thoughts and feelings teaches us to embrace this truth.
Meditation has helped me live this teaching by training me how to become the “Witness” the “0bserver” throughout my day and to explore some pretty deep questions. I get that the mind changes - the body changes (all i have to do is look at a picture of myself from last year) - and I have taken a journey inward to learn more about what the Masters of Wisdom teach.... that my soul is the silent witness, the observer to my mind and body.
I love what Dr. David Simon teaches in The Ten Commitments - "underlying this dimension of change is your quietly observing soul providing continuity to your identity." "When your body, mind, soul are aligned, you are most likely to translate yo...
Recently I responded to a question posed by a student on Facebook. This student is of the opinion that "everyone" has a trigger - "a chronic stressor in life" that doesn't flow smoothly. For this student it was a relationship that creates anxiety where she feels a lack of control. She believes that meditation will help her find her "internal tipping point" and "help her deal with the stress in the moment and is already practicing taking a pattern interrupt breath." However, she went deeper asking for feedback from our group - wanting to know - what do others see as to how meditation will help them over time? How relationships could be transformed with meditation? My dear friend Glenda suggested I share my answer in this blog:
Wow. Great question. Thank you for meditating!
Meditation has taught me to observe my thoughts. That I have thoughts but just observe them. I don’t need to believe them and I certainly don’t hav...
Saint Mother Theresa has been my hero most of my adult life. I have two wingmen angels~ Mother Theresa on my left ~ the Blessed Mother on my right. It’s a great team. I literally acknowledge them every single morning when I sit to meditate. I bow to each one slightly. I thank them for their continued presence. Next I ask for their guidance and grace as I set out upon my day in service. I let that intention go because I trust they are always with me prompting me and supporting me. And you know what? They have never ever left me. The tough times I’ve gotten through clearly are proof of their presence picking me up moving me forward. Opening my heart more. The moments I come from my best Self they are there. I highly recommend you call upon your guardian angels. It could be someone in the here and now or perhaps someone who you love deeply who is now part of the Great Mystery. I walk with legions of angels on a daily basis. Do you?
Peace of mind is independent from our physical condition.
Personal peace creates an environment conducive to healing within the body.
I have found it is the best way to allow the body’s natural healing ability to occur.
Personal peace is intent, choice and action.
I know now for sure that my daily practice of meditation has had the most dramatic effect on my inner and outer life.
And it all began with my desire (intent) my willingness to sit quietly (choice) and then following through (action) even in those moments when I didn’t want to. I truly believe that love, peace and joy are what matters most in my life.