According to davidji in his book Secrets of Meditation, “the second most common reason people cite for not meditating is they think the results are too subtle so they can’t see any value in continuing.” He continues, “this goes back to our misconceptions about what meditation is supposed to be. If your expectations are to levitate and see colors but you are only aware of drifting back and forth between the mantra and thoughts, you will assume it’s not working and give up. You may even think you’re doing it wrong because you don’t have any A/ha moments during your practice. The benefits of our meditation practice happen in the 23 hours a day when we are not meditating. “
Meditation weaves it’s grace into how I walk, stand in line, how I drive.
When I walk my meditation practice helps me become aware of my pace and my breathing. I experience moments of profound gratitude for the ability to walk. My practice each day helps me slow down as I move about ~ I “notice” my environment more o...
Have you read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer? Loved it ~highly recommend. I also Loved reading his teachings in Oprah’s new book on how meditation helps him deal with problems (see below).
davidji was the first teacher to introduce me to how "meditation" would help me deal with problems. In order to do that I had to learn how to meditate (checked that box). Next, how to access that space between the trigger and my response and then moving into it (work in progress).
Before learning how to meditate (and practicing mindfulness throughout my day) I was pretty much living on autopilot - reacting without really thinking. Some call that sleep walking through life or living unconsciously. Bascially, that behavior led to me saying and doing things (making choices and decisions) that I ultimately regretted and would then dwell upon! Many times these knee jerk reactions made my so called problems even more difficult to manage. I would like to report that I no longer have "problems" but that...
Our day presents us with many simple and repetitive activities to become more fully present ~ to practice meditation. We can pick one for today that doesn’t require any thinking. You know, the habitual activities we do on “autopilot” like ~ brushing our teeth.
I love this meditation because I have it ritualized already. I show up everyday to do it. Sometimes more then twice! It also has a beginning and an end ~ and it’s short.
Here are the “I’m brushing my teeth meditation” instructions ~
Before you begin to brush your teeth set an intention to meditate ~
“my intention is to stay present as I’m brushing my teeth.”
When you notice that your mind has drifted away (and it will) from witnessing yourself brushing your teeth simply drift your attention back to “I’m brushing my teeth.” You may find that your attention drifted away from witnessing yourself brushing your teeth the whole time. That’s ok. That is meditation ~ we drift back and forth from the object of...
Wherever we are at this moment is holy ground. It may be a hospital, a prison, a position with lots of responsibilities ~ wherever we are ~ this place is holy ground. This person we’re interacting with is holy.
I feel joy when I give to others. It makes me feel happy.
How about you?
The Buddha recommended that when you are in the midst of a generous act, say to yourself: “I AM being generous.” Not so much to boost our egos but more for us to get in touch with how it feels inside of us when we give. Jesus said: “Give and it will be given to you; a good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be poured into your lap.” (Luke 6:38).
Giving away something ~ my time, a kind word or an object always, without fail, returns to me so much more joy then what I have ever given away.
Did you know that we communicate with more than our words when we speak? Psychologist Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer in the field of nonverbal communication, formulated this rule. His research revealed that only 7 percent of our feelings and attitudes are carried by our words! The tone of our voice constitutes 38 percent of the communication and 55 percent is conveyed by body language. Wow!
My intention is to speak kindly, wisely, truthfully and be a compassionate listener. Not always easy. Being human I get that I am flawed. Many times I just stink at this. Often times I find myself losing patience and getting very frustrated during conversations with people. Maybe they are in your life too. The ones who tell the same story again and again with a bunch of “boring” details, or interrupt you in the middle of your sentence hijacking you, or want to tell me everything about a movie or a series their watching and then struggle with remembering the name of the movie, then the a...
Recently a student mentioned that they were falling asleep during their afternoon/evening meditation sessions. I understood completely as it happens to me as well.
Sleepiness is one of the most common “foes”that we encounter during meditation.
Note~ I learned from a meditation teacher that whenever the ego feels threatened “it” meets the truth with resistance. Let that sink in a bit.
A rule of thumb for the meditator is that 99 percent of the resistance experienced in meditation is the ego’s attempts to derail the process of entering a higher level of consciousness (or more spacious reality).
These attempts have been called “foes” in Buddhist traditions.
“Foes” can appear as pain in our bodies, boredom, sleepiness, restlessness, judgment, doubt, anger, fear. They can be very persuasive! We can even experience a “foe” as profound as the fear of peace itself. Wow.
When the foes of meditation arise in our practice we might want to remember what Albert Einstein said. “No probl...