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  • Writer's pictureColleen M. Doumeng

have you heard of the 18-40-60 rule?

Recently during our meditation workshop we went deep and shared on a topic that we unanimously had in common - how we waste a tremendous amount of our precious sacred moments thinking about what others think about us - you know - giving away our power - or - what you think of me is more important than what I think of me...and how we compare ourselves to others. Guilty!

I read this nugget in one of Dr. Amen's* book and I loved it:

"Comparing ourselves to others~

Our reactions drive feelings of inferiority, depression, helplessness, and jealousy; make you overly sensitive or a perfectionist; may lead to imposter syndrome or body dysmorphic disorder, where you see only your body’s flaws.

Stop caring what people think of you because they are mostly not thinking about you at all.

Dr. Daniel Amen teaches his patients the 18-40-60 rule:

When you’re 18, you worry about what everyone else is thinking of you;

when you’re 40, you don’t care what anyone is thinking about you;

and when you are 60, you realize no one has been thinking about you at all.

People spend their days worrying and thinking about themselves, not you."

Interesting perspective ~

*Dr. Amen's books:

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