Louise Hay teaches on self love ... “another way (self love) is to be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.
Patience is a very powerful tool. Most of us suffer from the expectation of immediate gratification. We must have it now. We don’t have the patience to wait for anything. We get irritable if we have to wait in lines or are stuck in traffic. We want all the answers and all the goodies right now. Too often, we make other people’s lives miserable by our own impatience.
Impatience is a resistance to learning.
Impatience is a resistance to learning - (needs repeating)
We want the answers without learning the lesson or doing the steps that are necessary.” LH
Two teachings impacted me here ~
Impatience is a resistance to learning - I want to remember to practice this especially as an act of self love. And, the second teaching - that through my impatience I make other people’s lives miserable. Owning my impact ~ thank you Louise Hay. Thank you.
As I move about my life I meet so many people who are in some of the greatest health challenges of their lives. They have recently been given a diagnosis or are in various stages of learning how to “live”, and not “die” from their current health challenge(s). Or, I meet family members intimately involved in helping their loved ones during these challenges.
I relate to them on such a deep level because 30 years ago this month I found myself in these exact hallways. I “get” how it feels to have your world rocked in less than a minute. I “get” how afraid they are, the stress and exhaustion one experiences from sleepless nights and fear. The holding back and not embracing life fully from adapting a mindset of “I can’t be happy, be at peace, I have this disease, I’m waiting for the “other shoe to drop” approach to life.
My journey to heal was a “three legged stool approach” to heal from my cancer. I practice it still today. Taught it to my k...
I met this angel this week while volunteering at the mondays at racine program. We provide spa services as well as reiki and meditation to people currently in treatment for cancer. This doll had not been out of her home in a very long time. Nor had she worn makeup in a very long time. Her greatest challenge that day was her legs. They were filled with fluid and she could hardly walk but she did. She wanted to learn how to meditate! So we practiced sixteen seconds, the pattern interrupt over and over. And we went pretty deep about how angry she was at God. Meditation allows us to witness and experience our emotions without judgment right?
It was incredibly fulfilling for me to witness how after one session she was able to shift and open her heart to let some love and healing in.
As we slowly walked back to the front desk she started to stay how embarrassed she was that it was taking her so “dam long” to walk and then to watch her catch her “conditioned” response so...
According to davidji in his book Secrets of Meditation, “the second most common reason people cite for not meditating is they think the results are too subtle so they can’t see any value in continuing.” He continues, “this goes back to our misconceptions about what meditation is supposed to be. If your expectations are to levitate and see colors but you are only aware of drifting back and forth between the mantra and thoughts, you will assume it’s not working and give up. You may even think you’re doing it wrong because you don’t have any A/ha moments during your practice. The benefits of our meditation practice happen in the 23 hours a day when we are not meditating. “
Meditation weaves it’s grace into how I walk, stand in line, how I drive.
When I walk my meditation practice helps me become aware of my pace and my breathing. I experience moments of profound gratitude for the ability to walk. My practice each day helps me slow down as I move about ~ I “notice” my environment more o...
Have you read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer? Loved it ~highly recommend. I also Loved reading his teachings in Oprah’s new book on how meditation helps him deal with problems (see below).
davidji was the first teacher to introduce me to how "meditation" would help me deal with problems. In order to do that I had to learn how to meditate (checked that box). Next, how to access that space between the trigger and my response and then moving into it (work in progress).
Before learning how to meditate (and practicing mindfulness throughout my day) I was pretty much living on autopilot - reacting without really thinking. Some call that sleep walking through life or living unconsciously. Bascially, that behavior led to me saying and doing things (making choices and decisions) that I ultimately regretted and would then dwell upon! Many times these knee jerk reactions made my so called problems even more difficult to manage. I would like to report that I no longer have "problems" but that...
Our day presents us with many simple and repetitive activities to become more fully present ~ to practice meditation. We can pick one for today that doesn’t require any thinking. You know, the habitual activities we do on “autopilot” like ~ brushing our teeth.
I love this meditation because I have it ritualized already. I show up everyday to do it. Sometimes more then twice! It also has a beginning and an end ~ and it’s short.
Here are the “I’m brushing my teeth meditation” instructions ~
Before you begin to brush your teeth set an intention to meditate ~
“my intention is to stay present as I’m brushing my teeth.”
When you notice that your mind has drifted away (and it will) from witnessing yourself brushing your teeth simply drift your attention back to “I’m brushing my teeth.” You may find that your attention drifted away from witnessing yourself brushing your teeth the whole time. That’s ok. That is meditation ~ we drift back and forth from the object of...
Wherever we are at this moment is holy ground. It may be a hospital, a prison, a position with lots of responsibilities ~ wherever we are ~ this place is holy ground. This person we’re interacting with is holy.
I feel joy when I give to others. It makes me feel happy.
How about you?
The Buddha recommended that when you are in the midst of a generous act, say to yourself: “I AM being generous.” Not so much to boost our egos but more for us to get in touch with how it feels inside of us when we give. Jesus said: “Give and it will be given to you; a good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be poured into your lap.” (Luke 6:38).
Giving away something ~ my time, a kind word or an object always, without fail, returns to me so much more joy then what I have ever given away.
Did you know that we communicate with more than our words when we speak? Psychologist Albert Mehrabian, a pioneer in the field of nonverbal communication, formulated this rule. His research revealed that only 7 percent of our feelings and attitudes are carried by our words! The tone of our voice constitutes 38 percent of the communication and 55 percent is conveyed by body language. Wow!
My intention is to speak kindly, wisely, truthfully and be a compassionate listener. Not always easy. Being human I get that I am flawed. Many times I just stink at this. Often times I find myself losing patience and getting very frustrated during conversations with people. Maybe they are in your life too. The ones who tell the same story again and again with a bunch of “boring” details, or interrupt you in the middle of your sentence hijacking you, or want to tell me everything about a movie or a series their watching and then struggle with remembering the name of the movie, then the a...